Introducing Sex Toys into Your Relationship
FIRST STEP: Start with yourself
These sex toys might be frightening and intimidating at first but this is a critical stage that you have to overcome. After doing so, talk to your partner about it before associating the toys into your relationship.
I prefer you start with a small sex toy to prepare yourself in dealing with the bigger and stronger ones. And from a daily basis of pleasure, unconsciously, it becomes a part of you as it plays an important role in the bedroom. Once you get used to it, next thing you know it’s the main ingredient in your bedside drawer.
SECOND STEP: Talk to your partner
Discuss it privately with your partner or talk it over a cup of coffee. Be open, honest and true to your partner at all times.
Adding adult toys into your relationship is a great initiative as it can be very encouraging and beneficial for both parties. Let him understand that incorporating such toys is a good way to have a new and exciting sex life.
Be ready for any follow through that can put a bug on things and questions like “Am I not good enough?” or, “Are you saying that you’re not satisfied and you’ve been faking it?”
Grab your partner and get a chance to look through a sex toy catalogue, brochure, or website and try saying something like, “Hey, are you up for a challenge? Let’s try one of them! Just for fun!” If he/she doesn’t like the idea, don’t push through and wait for another time. If he/she agrees, then go and choose a toy that you’re both comfortable with, maybe start with a cock ring or a mini vibe.
When you have selected what sex toy is right for you and your partner then purchase one and get it delivered to your front door. Make sure you have time alone with him/her to study it, free yourselves from any distractions and hurry to the bedroom and begin experimenting with your first sex toy.
Trying out sex toys for the first time is very entertaining, but be very gentle with each other and learn to read one’s body to know what she/he likes. If you’re not happy with the toy, admit it to your partner and you can get a new one. Don’t be disheartened because there’s a wide collection of toys waiting for you, of all shapes and sizes! There’s always something for everybody!
When the time comes that you’re both inclined to these sex toys, you will both create a more relaxing and enjoyable encounter.